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Tuesday, November 20

Amazing what Robby can hear

Robby has had the surgery now for two weeks, and we've noticed that he's able to hear things that he never noticed before.  He walked by the dishwasher while it was running the other day, and cocked his head, listened, then excitedly pointed and said, "Mommy, water, water!"  So far, the list of sounds he's hearing for the first time include: toilets flushing, toilets filling, dishwasher running, whispers, rain, milk sloshing inside a shaken coconut, the sound Hot Wheels make on a track, cats growling, the sounds of several toys, and many more.  His world is full of sounds he's never heard before, and that will only improve as he gets the plugs and packing out of his ear.
 
This has been a humbling, overwhelming and exciting time, and my heart is full.  The work that the Let Them Hear Foundation and the California Ear Institute does is truly remarkable, and my son has received a gift he can never repay.

Monday, November 12

Home again

We made it home Wednesday with no problems. I want to give a special thanks here to Northwest Airlines. They have a special program where people can donate their unused air miles, NW then matches the miles and gives tickets to families traveling for medically necessary reasons. They will give the child and a parent free tickets, no fees attached. They even sent Robby a teddy bear and a letter with their 'best wishes'. This was a great help to us in flying to California. If you have any unused miles, consider donating them to this worthwhile program.

Rachael and Robby were so happy to see each other again! They love to play together. Robby was also ready to go back to school. Thursday morning right after he got up, he asked to go to school. Then everyday since he has asked to go...finally this morning was a school morning and he was very happy to go.

He continues to heal. His leg is still pink, but it is covered with skin and no longer seeping. His ear does not bother him and we continue to notice better hearing. He will get his 'plug' removed on Monday and the rest of the packing removed 1-2 weeks after that. With each step we should notice better hearing.

Tuesday, November 6

Dr. visit

We saw the doctor today. Robby was given a clean bill of health. His ear and his leg are both healing nicely. The doctor removed the bandage from Robby's leg; the one that was supposed to stay on two to three weeks, but had been peeling since Friday. He showed us how to take care of his skin graft. They also trimmed the plug in his ear and gave us a script for an eardrop antibiotic. We see our local ENT in one to two weeks to have the plug removed, then again a week later to have the rest of the packing removed. Overall every thing looked really good.

Rachael and Robby are really missing each other. Rachael calls on the phone and doesn't really want to talk to me, just Robby. She laughs as she talks and he grins really big. It is soo cute. Robby has asked several times a day about Rachael. They will be so happy to see each other Thursday. Mom will be happy to see Rachael too, I miss her....and Kay and Emily too.

More Photos




Sunday, November 4

more info on the ear

What you are actually seeing in the picture of the post op ear is the new ear canal. Currently there is a plug in the ear, kind of like an ear plug you would use to reduce noise. Yeah, the red color is blood, but it is not seeping blood. The only time that happens is when he lays on it there tends to be a red spot on the pillow. There are also some stitches behind the ear. After a time of healing, the plug will come out. It seems not to bother Robby at all, it's almost like he doesn't know it is there.

If you look carefully at the picture of Robby sitting in the car on the day of surgery you can see part of his skin graft. It is on his right leg, high on his thigh.

He has had no Tylenol today, and is full of energy.

We took Dan and Rachael to the airport this afternoon and now are just kind of hanging around the hotel watching football, taking naps and playing with matchbox cars.

After Ear


Not for the squeamish, but it is what it is.

This is the surgery we traveled to California to achieve. Basically, they use a Dremel type tool to make a hole through the bone, and carefully separate some parts of the ear that I'm a little fuzzy about. Then, they use a skin graft from the thigh to form a ear canal, using the membrane to fashion an eardrum as well.

busy days

Sorry about the lack of updates, Dan and I thought the other one was taking care of the blog. Robby is doing really well. He occasionally complains about his hear hurting, especially in the morning. We figure he is bumping it at night. He is taking the occasional Tylenol, but no codeine.


Our biggest problem continues to be the bandage on his skin graft. It has started to peel away, something it shouldn't do for a couple more weeks. We are concerned about Robby getting an infection.

He is doing so well, that we are keeping busy siteseeing in San Fransico and the surrounding area. Friday we took a drive to Half Moon Bay and say the Pacific Ocean from the top of some high cliffs. We then drove back to the hotel through some beautiful mountains/woods.




Saturday we spent the day in the city. We ate lunch in Chinatown and walked around enjoying the feel of being in China again. Rachael even asked me if we were in China. :) We bought some Chinese snacks for Robby and then we then drove up to the hills surrounding the city for some beautiful views of the bay. It is absolutely beautiful here.

We have been able to meet with some of Dan's friends while we are here. It is nice for me to finally be able to put faces to names.

Friday, November 2

HEARING!!!!!

My son can hear better! Even with the packing in his ear and his head wrapped in a bandage Robby can hear me when I talk in a quiet voice. Before the surgery, he would not have heard the voice!



We are so excited. The fan in the bathroom automatically comes on with the light. Robby complained the fan was too loud. He said nothing about it before surgery.
He also seems to be pain free this morning. His biggest concern is still the bandage on his leg and the seeping blood.
More later, including pictures.

Surgery is over!

Robby's surgery went very well. The doctor said there were no major surprises and everything looked good. He was very pleased with how well every thing went. After surgery, when Robby woke up, he was not a happy camper, as is to be expected. He was very groggy for a while and was saying, "Mama ear owie". The nurse gave him Tylenol with Codiene and some apple juice, and in a few minutes he felt better. By two o'clock he was very hungry and ate a big bowl of wonton soup broth and a bunch of noodles. While being a bit more tired than normal, he is doing very well. We needed to make a quick trip to Wal-mart and he wanted to go instead of staying in bed.

Right now Robby has a big purple bandage around his head. His teddy bear has a matching bandage, which Robby thinks is really funny. They also had to take a skin graft from his thigh and used it to line the new ear canal. He has a clear bandage over the area (about 2 x3 inches). It is quite unpleasant to look at and has a small amount of blood seeping out. The blood getting on the sheets is concerning Robby quite a bit....more than the fact that his leg looks really nasty. :) I am amazed that the skin graft area does not bother either kid; they act like it is a normal "owie". The doctor said it is like a large scrape and will heal in the same manner.



Considering how well Robby was doing tonight we are hoping to be able to get a little bit of relaxation and vacation time in before Dan and Rachael fly back on Sunday. We will continue to update for the next several days. Dan is sound asleep right now; as you can imagine we are all fairly tired. When he wakes up he will post some pictures of Robby with his fancy new 'hat'....I have a feeling that 'waking up' will happen in the morning and not tonight (Thursday). By early Friday afternoon there should be pictures posted. Someday, I will have to figure out how to get pictures from the camera to the computer to the blog....sometimes not being a geek has its drawbacks :)

Thursday, November 1

one drunk kid

We are here in California and Robby just went back to the surgery room. He was given verced (spelling?) to make him calm down. Actually, it affects the body like alchohol so he is acting fairly drunk right now. It is actually pretty funny. :) He should be in surgery for two to three hours and then a hour or so in recovery. The doctor said he will be out of it most of today, but by tomorrow afternoon he should be back to normal with some mild pain.

We had a change of plans thanks to our insurance. They have decided as a policy that children yonger than five don't need a bone achored hearing aid, so they won't cover the proceedure. What that means is that we will get him the same hearing aid in the next few weeks only it will be worn on a head band or attached to a baseball cap. Then in six months we will have the bone anchored one put in. Luckily that is a surgery that any qualified ENT can do, so we will have it done in Columbus. We think it is poetic justice that the insurance will have to pay for two surgeries and two hearing aid systems just because they wouldn't cover the one proceedure for six months. Some time I will blog about our insurance issues...it is a long story.

Today Robby is having the atresia repair, basically the building of an ear canal. Yesturday when they did a hearing test we got some exciting results. With a child of four, even one without language issues, they have trouble getting the full range of results; but we do now know that at least one ear/hearing nerve works at a 5 decible level. This is normal hearing!! It will be exciting to see what he can hear once the surgery is over. Dr. Roberson said that he should have improvent immediately, then as he heals and the packing comes out his hearing will increase. Exciting times for him.

Saturday, October 27

surgery this week

Robby is scheduled for surgery this Thursday, Nov 1. He will be having two processes done. On his right side he will have an ear canal built to allow sound into his inner ear. Since his left ear is so bad, building a canal on that side would be useless, instead he will have a bone anchored hearing aid implanted (BAHA). Actually what is implanted is the plate that the hearing aid attaches to. We are having this done by Dr. Joseph Roberson at the California Ear Institute in Palo Alto California. You may wonder why so far away (We are in Ohio). Dr. Roberson is world renowned as one of the best in this field. There are few Drs who really know what they are doing and have had experience doing it. Atresia repair (the building of a canal) is a tricky surgery and you really want someone experienced. If you would like to read more about the surgery go to www.atresiarepair.com Other sites of interest would be caear.com and letthemhear.org These sites are all associated with Dr. Roberson and contain good information.
Dan, Becca, Rachael and Robby will all be flying out on Oct. 31. Dan and Rae are coming home on the 4th and Becca and Robby will return on the 7th. Dan just couldn't take anymore time off from his new job since he just started Oct. 15! Robby has to be there for a week after to surgery to allow for the initial post-op visits (two-four). He will then have to see our local ENT for further follow-up. We are planing on posting from CA and will let everyone know how the surgery goes.

updates

Wow, life is crazy with two active preschoolers. I thought I would post an update of some of the latest news.
Robby is doing really well in preschool and loves going. He still does not talk to the other kids or interact with them yet, but he follows the routines and loves to go.
Rachael has quite bitting him, for which Robby is thankful. She still lashes out and smacks him occasionally or pinches his cheek, but no bites. Robby is starting to get back at her and occasionally pushes or smacks her in return.
Robby now has an IEP with Westerville City Schools. He qualifies for special education help in the area of speech/communication....go figure :) He will meet with s/n preschool teacher for 1/2 hour a week and with a speech teacher for 1/2 hour a week. This is good news. It will not only give him extra help now, but he will be in the system when kindergarten starts.
Robby language is amazing; he is putting together 3-4 word sentences and will try to repeat most things when asked. Articulation is a big problem...He often says things that I have no idea what he is saying. Sometimes context helps, other times I never figure it out.
His favorite activity is riding his bike and scooter and just being outdoors.

Thursday, September 27

Remember this post?

Sunday, July 1

Lost tickets

Our tickets went missing today, and we couldn't find them... still can't. After a frantic two hour search behind book-cases and the refrigerator, and tearing things apart, we called Northwest Airlines, dreading the discussion. I'll cut to the chase and eliminate the tension. Although the tickets we'd received looked like paper tickets, they were just receipts for e-tickets. So, our discussion with Northwest was some of the best news I'd received in awhile. I could have done without that stress, but I'm glad we got the tickets all straightened out, and really glad they're e-tickets.

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Well our lost 'tickets' finally (!!) surfaced today. Of all the places we looked, and all the things we have done since returning, we found the 'tickets' in a place we use everyday. They were in the bread drawer. Now before you get visions of old moldy bread just sitting in a drawer for three months, let me explain our bread drawer. Not only does it hold our bread, which is a staple in a family of six, it also holds our aprons (which we rarely use). Therein lies the mystery of the tickets. Today a glass of milk got spilled in the drawer (Don't ask, it is just life with two preschoolers). Of course I had to empty everything out, including the aprons which had milk on them. Lo and behold, there was the envelope from the travel agency. How it ever wound up in the bread drawer under a stack of apron, I have no idea.


Preschool

Robby finished his second week of preschool yesterday. He is attending "Praise Express Preschool" at our church. He attends Mon. Tues. and Wen. and absolutely loves it! In fact, last Thursday he was putting on his shoes and said "school". When I told him there was no school that day, he got mad and threw his shoes across the room. Every day when I pick him up he is full of grins. Tuesday he was the 'helper' and was able to bring something to share. I sent in the photo album that we had sent him in China. I thought he might talk about the pictures since he loves the album. Mrs T, his teacher, said he did a great job and named everyone in the pictures. He also did the counting and other helper duties. This is really great since he has not been talking at school. In fact one of the kids asked me on Monday if Robby could talk. I told him Robby didn't talk much because he had only been learning English for two months, while the child had four years to learn English. He said that made sense. Robby doesn't participate much in the circle time activities (books etc), most likely because he doesn't understand what is being said. He does play and do the art etc.

Friday, September 14

7 and 0

No that is not the score of a game, nor a team's record. Seven and Zero are the results of Robby's CT Scan. The Doctor rates each ear on a scale of 1-10 in order to determine whether or not surgery to open the ear canal is a viable option. He looks at a lot of different factors regarding the formation of the inner ear. Obviously Robby's ears are vastly different. His right ear rates a 7, meaning he is a good candidate for surgery and the canal repair should improve his hearing, possibly to near normal levels. His right ear rated a zero, as the doctor's assistant told us his inner ear on the left is "abysmal": the bones are fused together etc.
What this all means is that Robby will have surgery to open his right ear canal and will have a BAHA hearing aid implanted on his left side. This is a 'bone anchored hearing aid'. As soon as we find a good site that describes the BAHA we will post a link. The nice thing about the BAHA is that even though it is on his left side, because it conducts sound through the bone, it will help the hearing in his right ear as well.
Robby's surgery is scheduled for November 1, 2007 in Palo Alto, California. Dr. Roberson will be performing the surgery. Robby will have the atresia surgery (canal opening) and the BAHA surgery at the same time. We will stay in Palo Alto for a week so Robby can have follow up visits. We will provide more details as we get closer to the date.

Wednesday, September 12

CT Scan

Robby had his CT Scan done on Friday. We then sent the images to a surgeon in California who will evaluate them to see if surgery will be beneficial to Robby. This would be a surgery to open up his ear canals. Robby did great for the CT Scan. He laid still enough that we did not have to sedate him; quite an accomplishment for a four year old who has no idea what is going on. I think part of the reason he laid so still was because he was apprehensive and a bit scared. Mom was able to be right beside him the whole time so that helped. We are expecting to hear from the surgeon this week.
Robby also saw the dentist this week...his teeth look great. No problems, unlike Rachael who had two small cavities.

Monday, August 27

Sibling bonding II

Rachael and Robby are getting along a lot better now... in fact Robby has been bitten just once in the last week! They have reached the point where they will play together without fighting for several minutes. They love to play outside with their tri-cycle, bike and scooter. Sometimes Rachael tries to mother Robby which he does not like....
Well I started that post several days ago and had to stop because the two of them got into a major argument...just as I was writing about them getting along better. :) They are continuing to learn to adjust to each other. Some of the issues we have between them are just sibling issues and have nothing to do with adoption etc. The jealousy on Rachael's part is decreasing as is the aggressive behavior. Robby is starting to assert himself a little bit and has even pushed Rachael a couple of times. Funny how I think it is good that my son is pushing my daughter...usually parents want the kids to play nice, I want my son to fight back. ( at least to a point... it is a fine line we are walking).

More good news (and a "duh")

The "duh" has to do with Robby's hearing evaluation last week. The Mandarin translator did not show up, therefore we couldn't easily communicate the instructions to Robby. He was supposed to drop a block into a pail every time he heard a sound, plus a couple of other things. Anyway the results of the test showed that Robby had a profound hearing loss 0f 80-90 decibels. We know this is not right. The doctor even said it was a bad result because if that was his actual level of loss, he wouldn't be able to speak with the skill he does. So we came away form the audiologist knowing that Robby has an 'undetermined hearing loss'...Duh.

The good news: We got the results of Robby's blood and lab work back. Everything looks great! No abnormal levels, no disease, we don't even have to repeat most of his vaccinations!

We have a CT Scan scheduled for Sept 7th. The results will be sent to Dr. Roberson in California to see if Robby is a candidate to have his ear canals opened. This would increase his ability to hear.

Thursday, August 9

Good News!

We saw more doctors today. Because the kidneys form at the same time as the ears, whenever there is a problem with ear structure the doctors check the kidneys to make sure they are developed properly. Robby had an ultrasound today and then we saw the urologist. Everything is fine with his kidneys. The ultrasound showed no malformations. This is a relief. Our visit with the ENT and audiologist was rescheduled until Tuesday.

All the testing and doctors we have seen so far agree on one thing: we have an adorable healthy little boy.

Friday, August 3

Dr. visit

Robby had his first appointment with the International Adoption Clinic today. We met with a dietitian, a physical therapist and a pediatrician. The dietitian was pleased with his eating. (He eats a lot of meat and fruit and drinks a ton of milk or yogurt smoothies. He is not very fond of vegies.)

The physical therapist said he was right on target for his age. There were some things she couldn't tell because of his unwillingness. We had a mandarin translator with us, but Robby wouldn't really respond to her, possibly due to shyness around new people.

The pediatrician said he looked like he was in excellent health, although a little skinny. She saw no major health issues.

Then we went downstairs for blood work. They took a ton of blood and will check for a variety of things including whether he needs to repeat any vaccinations. Dan and the translator were also able to get Robby to take a urine test. He must have thought they were nuts getting him to pee in a cup. This weekend we have the unenviable job of collecting two sets of stool samples. I told Dan that was his responsibility. :)

Monday we go back to see a developmental psychologist. Thursday we see the Ear. Nose and Throat Doctor who will do, among other things, a hearing test. Then we see a renal specialist for an ultrasound of his kidneys. Because the ears and the kidneys form at the same time in-utero, when a child has ear problems they always check the kidneys. Robby shows no visible signs of kidney problems, but we need to check to make sure. Later in the month we will have a CT scan of his inner ears and a visit to the eye doctor.

Thursday, August 2

Found our Urumqi hotel on Google Earth

On a whim, I went to maps.google.com tonight, and pulled up Urumqi, to see if I could spot our hotel from the satellite photo. Funny enough, I found it almost instantly. Click here to see where we stayed. To the left is the park we visited a few times (where Rachael and Robby ate dripping ice cream surrounded by locals). Our hotel is the shape of an upside-down Y, with a circle on top, on the bottom left, across the highway from the park.

Small world 2

Two and a half years ago when we had just finished the paperwork for Rachael, I joined a yahoo group for families whose paperwork went to China at about the same time. Having similar log in dates in China would mean we would get our referral at the same time. Through this group we met a family that lives in the Columbus area. We are still in touch with them. Darla has a friend who she knows through another yahoo group. She sent me a message with her friends website. It turns out it is 'Alaska' , the folks we met several times in China! (see the previous post for a further explanation). I now can learn their names and read more about their time in Fuzhou. Is that cool or what?

Party time

Bedtime has been going really smooth the past few nights, no more crying and sleeping through the night. That is, until last night. About 15 minutes after I put the kids to bed, I heard noises and giggles coming from their room (Robby and Rachael have bunk beds and share a room). When I checked on them, they were both up on Robby's bed. I put Rae in her bed and told them to go to sleep. A few minutes later I heard more giggles and the unmistakable sound of children jumping on the bed. Again, back in their own bed with a strict talk. Then a third time. I then went downstairs and was talking to my brother when I heard Rachael going into the kitchen. When I got off the phone, I went up to check on them. They were sitting on Robby's bed licking the icing off of cupcakes! This was an hour and a half after they first went to bed. I guess they were trying to celebrate being home for two weeks. I can see many more late night parties in their future :) They are going to be quite a pair when they can really communicate... there is much orneriness and many adventures looming in the future of the Houser household.

Wednesday, July 25

some good news

Thought I would let you know of some of the good things happening.

Bedtime last night was still rough. Robby cried for about 40 minutes, luckily Rachael was able to fall asleep during his crying. They then both slept through the entire night! Yeah.

Secondly, Robby is now on a lot more friendly terms with the cats. He will now pet them, although he still a bit shy of them, it is nothing like last week.

Robby also now can say several English words, although he doesn't use them regularly. They include: Rachael, Kayla, hello, hi and bye. He is making his wants known more and more. For example if he is thirsty, he will take my hand and lead me to the fridge then point to the juice.

Yesterday, while I was giving Rachael her bath, Robby went into his room, got out clothes and got dressed all by himself, including shoes an socks. This is a far cry from the little boy who stood motionless while I dressed him just two weeks ago!

Rachael is now introducing him to the joys of 'The Wiggles' and Sesame Street.

Monday, July 23

Its a small world

Okay, do you have the Disney song running through your mind?

It is amazing how small a world we sometimes live in. Some examples:

There were two other families from Ohio in our agency travel group: one from South Point and one from near Granville. It turns out that the family from South Point attends the Nazarene Church there. Carolyn is the Mission President for her church, a post I held at our church for the past four years. Since she is in our District, we attend the same yearly mission conference at Grove City each May.
The other family brought their 15 year old daughter. She attends Granville Christian School. This is one of the schools that Kayla's school regularly meets in athletic events so we should have a friendly rivalry going on now.

When we were in Tokyo, we met a family at the airport that was going to China to adopt a little girl from the Fujian Provence. This is the same province Rachael is from. We saw them later at the Great Wall and several times in Guangzhuo. I have no idea what their names were, we called them 'Alaska' because that was where they were from.

While on the Great Wall, we met a lady that is a professor at Ohio University in Athans, about an hour away from us. She and a small group of profs were in Beijing teaching for three weeks. She was kind enough to take a family picture of us.

Also, as we posted earlier, Dan was able to attend a Toastmasters meeting in Beijing.

So far from home, yet so many ties to it.

crying and screaming

But enough about Dan and I.... :) Actually bedtime has become quite interesting the last couple of nights. The kids are currently in their bunk beds screaming and crying...feeding off of each other most likely. Robby is crying for attention; the minute we walk in he shuts up. This child must have been spoiled rotten in China. Rachael is crying because she no longer wants to sleep in her own bed, she wants to sleep with Mom and Dad or Kayla. While we were gone she shared a bed with Kayla or Robby for most of the time. I am worried if I put Robbie and Rachael in the same bed now she would bite or pinch him, so I just sit here and listen to them scream, although it is getting quieter. They must be running out of steam.
Speaking of steam, Dan ran out quite early tonight. He was sound asleep by 8: 30. Today was his first day back at work, if you can call a golf outing with the boss work. It did require him to be up and out of the house by 7:30 and he didn't return until after 6; a long day when you are still fighting jet-lag....and he couldn't even take a power nap at his desk.

Saturday, July 21

sibling bonding

The kids (as Rae and Robby are called) have been doing much better together. One example:
They share some good time at the table eating cheesy potatoes (thanks Beth). Then it is on to fun with stickers and bouncing on the top bunk of their beds. Great times for the two of them. The only bad part of it was that it was happening at 1:30 in the morning! Jet lag does nasty things to your body's sense of schedule. We put them to bed at 9pm or so and they sleep for three hours and wake up thinking they just took a nice long nap. We can't convince them that they need to sleep for six more hours.

Amazingly, Robby has been doing much better than Rachael. He is sleeping much better at night, at least for the most part he does not get up and play like she does. He does have a period of about an hour where he calls out repeatedly and wants someone to touch him...speaking to him doesn't help. He was calling Mama "nie la" (you come) over and over...of course Mama came. Last night he woke up calling out for his Aiya. Aiya means auntie and is what the kids in orphanages call their care givers. Mama was able to comfort him, but it was touching that he wanted his aiya.

One side light, Aiden, 3, was one of the little boys in our travel group. He and Kayla fell in love with each other. He would call her aiya and loved to play games with Kay.

We discovered today that Robby loves pancakes. Some of the 'American' food we give him he just looks at and won't eat. We know he is thinking 'what kind of crazy foods do these barbarians eat?' and this from a kid whose home town eats all kinds of animal parts! However, he stuffed his mouth full of pancakes this morning. A future I-hop fanatic in the making.

Friday, July 20

Blog updates

Now that we're back home, and are up until 3am dealing with jet-lagged toddlers, we've lots of time to backfill posts with pictures, so please skim back through the past few days if you like photos.

Sleeping on a Jet Plane






Any of you who have ever flown know there is basically one way to sleep in economy class: tilt your seat back a small amount and hope you can sleep sitting up.

If you are smaller in size and lucky enough to have an empty seat next to you, you might even be able to turn on your side a bit. When you are only 32 inches tall, like Rachael, it is a whole different ball game. You can curl up on Mom or Dad or Kayla and you can lay any number of ways.

Rachael thought the plane was a great place to sleep and loved the fact that she got a little pillow and blanket. She even slept through take-off and landings--missing the whole flight from Detroit to Columbus Wednesday. Then again, we all missed the flight and slept. Only Dan was awake for the take-off, and the rest of us were asleep long before.

Thursday, July 19

Care for bugs for dinner?

Amongst all the turtles, frogs, snakes, lobsters, oysters, fish and eels being sold on the wharf in Guangzhou at the seafood market, there were also many vendors that had water bugs and grubs for sale.

For dinner. Play the video to see the wriggling...

3:30am



Well, it is 3:30 and Rachael's body doesn't know if it is a.m or p.m. (For the record it is a.m Eastern Daylight time, p.m. China time.) Everyone else is sound asleep and Rachael is wide eyed and ready to go, although a little grumpy. Me? I would be asleep too if I had my way, but someone has to watch her. She was a bear to get to sleep last night at well. Ganggang on the other hand had no problem falling fast asleep.

He did pretty well seeing his new home for the first time. We had sent a photo album that the orphanage staff has obviously showed him multiple times. His face lit up when he saw it and he was able to point out different people in it. As we entered our neighborhood, we got out the album and showed him the pictures of Emily and Grandma and Grandpa pointing to them. We then showed him the picture of the house and his room. When we pulled in the drive, he pointed to the house and then to the book with a big smile.

Ganggang seems to really like his top bunk and got a big grin when we put him into it. His only complaint about Columbus so far seems to be the fact that we have two cats. He has no experience with cats other than pictures in a book. He is scared of them and backs away or wants up when they come near. Oh well, he will have to learn to deal with them. We just keep petting them and telling him they are good. We are also encouraging Rae to pet and kiss them when Ganggang can see her do it.

Wednesday, July 18

English


Tonight we clearly heard Robby use his first two English words. Taylor walked into the room and he said, "Hi". Later when my parents left, Robby waved and said, "Bye". What a smart boy we have!

I am off to get the kids and then myself into bed now. How wonderful it will be to sleep in my own bed.

HOME!!



Twenty-five hours after leaving our hotel in Guangzhou this morning we arrived at our front door. We are tired, weary, worn-out and happy to be home. Did I mention that we were out of energy? Our flights, though long, were uneventful and all our luggage arrived at the airport with us. Dan especially was hammered hard, still getting over his sickness, and wasn't able to sleep on the first two flights due to childcare issues. However, we're all tired and strung out, and are looking forward to bed.

The only snag of the day was the two hours it took us to get through immigration in Detroit. This was extra frustrating due to the fact that we only had a 90 minute layover. The line of international arrivals who had missed their connecting flight was long, but we were able to arrange for a flight that left just under two hours later than our original flight. Stay tuned for more updates during the days and weeks to come.

Tuesday, July 17

Sick - but not of china!

I was sick Monday and most of Tuesday, with some kind of bug that wore me out and made me weak, along with the Traveler's Scourge -- nuf sed.  While the family went out shopping and on a river cruise, I spent the day in bed sleeping and reading, except for two hours in the lobby and by the pool waiting for housekeeping to clean the room.  Fortunately, it seems to mostly have run it's course, and was likely just something I ate Sunday, perhaps at KFC. 

Besides being cooped up and not able to enjoy the resort, it's also leaving me less prepared than I would like for the flight home.  I was still pretty groggy this evening, so it's iffy.  Please remember me in your prayers, and all of us for that matter, as we have quite a long and stressful day tomorrow.

Being knocked out of commission for a few days, plus a $25/day charge for Internet at the hotel, has put quite a dent in our blogging.  We'll catch up soon.

Monday, July 16

Dental records

We have decided if we ever need a set of Rachael's dental records we will probably just be able to check Robby's arm. Rachael has decided to take her jealousy out through biting and pinching Robby, often for no clear reason. He just takes the abuse and cries...he has yet to learn to fight back. Some day he is going to haul off and hit Rachael and boy will she be surprised.

Most of the time Rae is quite happy with Robby and they are learning to play together well. We are teaching the appropriate way to wrestle on the bed. They will tumble over each other and laugh and giggle. Yesterday we found a small playground and they enjoyed running around the play gym together.

One interesting cultural note about the playground. We were sitting there when a small child, about 3 years old, walked up in a dress. The mother walked up, pulled up the dress and proceeded to wipe his rear end. The child then climbed up on the play gym and proceeded down the slide. Low and behold it was a little boy in a dress with no underwear on! In a country of split pants this caused no stir among the locals. I was already video tapping my kids playing so I have the whole incident on tape. Just one of the many different experiences we have had in China.

Would you like a little cheese with your whine?

This is a phrase that has become quite common in our family since the weekend. As Robby comes out of his shell more and more we are beginning to see how spoiled he must have been. He has this 'wonderful' little whine/cry he does when he doesn't get his way. He will bury his head in his hands and have at it, periodically lifting his head to see if we are watching. The slightest thing can set him off, like not getting the food he wants, being told to sit down etc. We do have some times of genuine tears, but these are brief and usually in response to a tumble or being tired.

Other than the whine, he is continuing to adjust very well. He responds to things we tell him and does a great job of staying with us on our walks. He is very curious and will point out things that he is interested in. When one of us is gone he seeks for us and is happy to see us again.

the White Swan





We are comfortably settled in at the White Swan Hotel on Shamain Island in Guangzhou even if the room is a bit crowded. This is the most famous hotel in Guangzhou and is where Richard Nixon, George Bush Sr. and Queen Elizabeth stayed when they were in town.

Shamain Island is a small Island on the Pearl River. It was developed by Europeans as a place to build their embassy's and to live. The architecture is distinctly European, and it is very quiet and enjoyable after the hustle and bustle of Urumqi. Many of the embassies have moved into the city and now the Island caters mainly to tourists and families adopting Chinese children. There are many shops and we have enjoyed seeing how much we can get for a few Yuans. The shopkeepers are all very friendly, speak English and do an amazing job at remembering the names of the Children. They will call Ganggang and Rachael by name and will hold them and play with them while we shop. Of course this only encourages us to spend more time and money in the store, but it is still nice.

Our room overlooks the Pearl River and we have a beautiful view. Robby and Rachael love looking out the window at all the barges and boats going by.

You will notice there is a lack of pictures with the last few post. Dan is not feeling well tonight and he is the picture guru. I have no idea how to do it. Hopefully he will feel better tomorrow and will be able to post pictures. If not we will add some this weekend. Well, I am off to bed. We will do more updates tomorrow.
Things are going well and we are all slowly adjusting to having new family dynamics. Thank you for your continued prayer support. We know it has made a world of difference.

Yes and No

Yes we are still alive, no we are not sitting in a Chinese jail for anything.

The last several days have been hectic and the new hotel charges outrageous rates for internet service. In Urumqi we had connecting rooms, here we do not so that makes a big difference in being on the computer as well. As you can imagine, trying to do blogging with two preschoolers running around can be rough, as can five people sharing a hotel room with a king size bed, a roll away and a crib. Dan, Robby and I have the king, Kayla the roll away and Rachael the crib (aka her special little bed) We did purchase a 24 hour time span of internet, so hopefully between now and 10:00 tomorrow we will get a lot posted. We will also continue to update and fill in the gaps after we return home on Wednesday.

Friday, July 13

The flight

edited for content and pictures...


Friday, after receiving Shagang's passport (Chinese) we flew to Guangzhou (formerly known as Canton). This is where the American Consulate is. As a Chinese citizen Shagang has to apply for a visa to immigrate to the US. We will receive his visa Tuesday and then the last of the paperwork is finished. With that visa, once we land on American soil Xin Shagang officially becomes Robert Adam Houser, an American citizen! For Robby, this will happen on the tarmac in Detroit.

As lifelong Buckeyes, Robby becoming a US citizen in Detroit is a bittersweet thing for mom and Kayla. My son/her brother will become an American citizen, but it will happen in 'that state up north'! :) Oh well, at least he has a scarlet and gray blanket waiting for him on his bed at home.

Robby did amazingly well on his first ever plane flight. We were concerned that his ears might cause him problems, but it was nothing chewing some gum couldn't help.
He loved playing with the buttons for the lights and spent a long time turning them on and off. He also enjoyed listening to the music on his headphones. This was another relief to us to know that he hears well enough to use headphones. The only times we have noticed any hearing issues is when we speak very quietly or sometimes when there is a lot of background noise.

The flight into Guangzhou was uneventful, except that it was VERY hot in Guangzhou when we landed, and we had a delay of several minutes on the shuttle bus that met us on the tarmac. It's good to be at the White Swan, and we have a spectacular view of the river from our hotel room.

Thursday, July 12

Muslim Dinner


Shagang actually ate a pretty big dinner last night, when we ate at a Muslim restaurant. Now, when you hear "Muslim restaurant", what do you think of? We were expecting a restaurant with Middle-Eastern dishes, of a Turkistan theme. Nope, it was hard-core Chinese, with a few local dishes, and following Halal. If you can read the menu there, it included whole roasted goat, spiced tripe, boiled cow head with abalone, horse intestines in sauce, lamb ovary stuffed dumplings, boiled camel foot, sheep embryo in blood sauce, and so on (not making any of that up!).
Some of it was freakin' intimidating. Some of it was also definitely against the Qur'an, such as the menu items comprised of blood or gelatin, and they served alcohol. Come to think of it, the restaurant was really "Muslim decor" Chinese.

Look, we've already told you we're adventuresome, and have already eaten fish head, fried carp, and several "unknown" things, but sheep embryo? Boo yao! Fortunately, after 6 pages of menu items that reeled our senses and churned Kayla's still sensitive tummy, we did come across a few pages with palatable dishes.

We had lamb dumpling (Jiaozi) both steamed and sautéed, that were fabulously good, and mutton skewers that were peppery but awesome -- Ganggang ate 3. He also really chowed down on the fried rice, and lamb clay pot. Rachael really liked the sesame beef - more on that in a minute.



Our waitress also exhibited a common trait we've seen in hotels -- speaks English very well, but doesn't really understand it when spoken. After 3 attempts to get cold milk for the children, we got hot salted milk with tea for the adults, and then hot (delicious) milk for the kids. Kayla nearly got beer.

When you look at the picture of the sesame beef, you'll notice how it looks much like you'd expect, but what's hard to see in the photo is that the pieces are thin. I mean, really thin. In fact, so thin, it would have to be Carl Budding Beef, and there didn't appear to be any red meat in them, and they were crunchy. They were really delicious, and we all liked them, but knew it must not be from a part of the cow that you typically see in the Kroger meat aisle.

When we tried to ask our waitress about the beef, and used various signs and charades, and finally got the answer "beef-like meat". Um, except it wasn't like beef, not even Budding Beef, which is scarcely beef at all. It was the most un-beef-like meat ever. My best guess? Horse intestine. Becca thinks it's beef intestines or ear. So, we're not sure, but it was very good, and I'd order everything we had again.

The highlight of the evening was a communication breakthrough, when I asked Shagang if he "had to go potty" and used the ASL sign for using the bathroom. He nodded his head, we walked hand-in-hand to the bathroom in the hotel lobby, he insisted on using the same stall we'd used twice before, and promptly did the deed. He got hearty praise from Becca and I, and we re-told the story to Kayla so Ganggang could tell what we were saying. Kayla rolled her eyes, but played along as jie-jie.

Kids being kids

We can't see our blog from Beijing or Urumqi due to censorship of Blogger, so can only publish, and can't see the resulting post.

So, we're taking a risk with this posting... something we usually don't like to do, because we like publishing a high-quality blog. However, we wanted to make this available, even if the gamble doesn't pay off, and it looks like junk on our blog.

Here's our YouTube video of Rachael and Xin Shagang playing and jumping on the bed...

Necessity the Mother of Lunch Today


Stuck in the hotel with 3 napping kids and rumbling tummies, we eyed the room service menu, and decided to make do with what we had around the hotel room.

Actually, we had a nice lunch, as you can see. Becca cut up a peach, nectarine, apple and an orange, into a quart zip-lock bag and I tossed in pistachios. With some leftover Uyghur flat bread, lychee fruit, Man Ha Dun, and a Chinese half-biscuit, half-cookie, we had a pretty good lunch.

Bizarre Bazaar


This morning we went to a famous local bazaar that's filled with vendors hawking mostly dried fruit and nuts of every description, and lots of dry goods -- daggers, scimitars, furs, cloisonnes, Russian and Cashmere trinkets, handmade silk and wool (Persian-style) rugs, silk and wool clothing, Persian pointy shoes and Genie-in-a-lamp style lamps, Urghur drums, Chinese cymbals, Kazakhstan tars (sic) and zithers, lighters of every description, jade carvings, bone carvings, and more. 

As you can see from the picture of the glass urn, Chinese medicine booths were also selling dried caterpillars you could grind up to make tea, along with other things that were less identifiable.



The bazaar was centered in a 6-story store very much the size of a 1970s era JC Penney's, but taller, with escalators between floors, but the bazaar had spilled out into the surrounding neighborhood.

Unfortunately, as we pulled into the bazaar, our tour guide informed us that the knife restrictions on carry-on bags also apply to checked baggage when flying out of Urumqi, so any knives we bought would be seized at the airport. Bummer!  Since the region is famous for it's knives, we'd been planning for 6 months to buy all our nephews real Xinjiang Urghur daggers and scimitars for Christmas presents.  The best alternative we could find is China Mail (notorious for losing packages and delivering months later) who would charge $26-$50 a package to mail home.  Sorry guys, not gonna happen.

We shopped for about 30 minutes when Kayla got very nauseous, weak and pale.  We sat for quite awhile by a fur trader and kept fanning Kayla while putting cold water on the back of her neck.  After 60 minutes, Becca bought two small rugs and we left for the hotel.  With a little bit of ice cream, orange juice and air conditioning, Kayla somewhat recovered, and is now crashed for a power nap, as are Robby and Rachael.



I was sorely tempted to buy a Russian fox hat, like you see soldiers wearing in the movies, but they were asking $60, so I couldn't justify it.  If you'll look closely at the picture of the fur cummerbund they were selling there, you'll notice the German Shepard colorings.  Yup, dog furs were mixed along with the fox, ermine, sheep and goat, and Fido fur wasn't very appealing.  I'm guessing that, along with many counterfeit brands present in some of the dry goods, there were pelts of endangered species as well -- I think I saw a real snow leopard pelt, and I know they're endangered.  Not good on many levels.

On the plus side, we did find a very cute Urgur hat for Shagang that he liked a lot, and was happy to wear around.

Cool phrase

I got to say something this morning for the first time that my father always said, in various formats -- "OK, Houser boys and girls, let's go to breakfast..."

It's sinking in now. I have a son. How cool is that??!!??

On our adoption blog

In case you've not noticed the trend, blog postings go up pretty quickly, but it takes longer to get the associated pictures posted.

You might want to consider scrolling down periodically to see if we've added photos for the prior day or two, as we get a spare moment.

Wednesday, July 11

Children in China

People sometimes comment to us about the Chinese not wanting their children. I just want to clarify that this is an incorrect assumption: the Chinese people love children. There is a governmental policy limiting families to one, sometimes two children in order to help control population growth. (Agricultural families can have up to 4, and ethnic groups are not restricted.)

However, we have found that people really care about children, not just their own, but others. When Rachael is running and trips, several people come to her to make sure she is okay. They will ask questions about Rachael and now Robby and are very pleased that they have found a home. Rachael was crying in the pearl market the other day due to the fact that she had just woken up. The clerks gave her a little red bag to have and several were trying to comfort her, one even brought her an ice cream bar.

One other side story about children in stores. We toured the Provincial museum yesterday and stopped in the museum gift shop. The clerks had a watermelon sitting on the counter and were cutting it and eating it. They saw our kids (Rachael and Robby) and offered them good sized pieces. Remember, this is a two and a four year old walking around a museum gift shop with Persian rugs, silks and handmade leather goods, eating watermelon -- Not exactly a neat fruit. [of course, no pictures of this, since pictures were forbidden in the museum]

More about the museum later. I am heading for bed now.

Eating in Urumqi

Buns and fruit are becoming a regular routine for us here in Urumqi. In Beijing we found that the restaurants often had English words, or had pictures of their food on display, thus allowing us to point to what we wanted. In Urumqi, you see very little English, they just don't get the tourists here. It is interesting to note that almost all signs are in Mandarin, Arabic and sometimes a third language (don't know what it is). You know you are in a foreign country when the signs are bilingual or trilingual and you still can't understand them.

Anyway, when we don't have a guide with us, which is at least one meal a day, we have to make do. While we are brave in what we will try, there's a vast difference between intentionally ordering snake, ox gonads, or cricket salad, and pointing to a line of Arabic or simplified Chinese on a menu and getting goodness-knows-what.

Breakfast is a buffet at the hotel, so that is easy to do. They have some of the traditional 'Western' breakfast foods: breads, cereal, eggs, bacon etc. There are also several decidedly non traditional breakfast foods: steamed buns, noodles, cucumber juice, stir-fried vegies and pasta with Italian sauce. Kayla says she doesn't care if she is eating spaghetti for breakfast, it is familiar food and it tastes good!

Tonight we took a walk and found a really interesting market area with lots of food vendors, and a fruit and meat market. We bought peaches, lychee fruit, flat bread, cakes, tiny puff pastries (think Schmidt's mini cream puff with apricot filling), roasted pistachios and drinks. Some, ok all, of the hanging meat was too intimidating for us to venture buying meat-on-a-stick. However, Kayla's reaction to the piles of pig tails, pig ears, livers, tripe, tongue and the like was amusing to us, and to the locals! Kayla and Dan agreed that they didn't want to think about what was squishing under their flip-flops in the dark interior of the fruit and meat market.

We weren't able to find a bench to sit on, so we sat on the curb. Culturally that was not all that strange a thing to do and we didn't meet with any disapproval from the locals. All the food was great...they have some wonderful bakers here. The cake we bought was some kind of spice cake, like gingerbread, but subtly spiced. We couldn't figure out what spice it was, but it was good.

It was funny seeing GangGang show a preference for some of his foods, and work with us to communicate what he wanted to eat next from the smörgåsbord. Watermelon was a big hit, until he discovered pistachios. He was eating them as quickly as Dan could shell them, until we figured out he could shell them on his own. We finally had to cut him off after about 50 pistachios.

Communication

Obviously communicating with Robby is not easy...we use a lot of gestures and pointing. We learned some very basic American Sign Language before we left. This morning I asked/signed Robby if he was hungry, he just stood there. I then asked/signed if he was thirsty, he shook his head yes! I gave him water and he drank it.

He then took the bottle cap and hid it in his fist. He put both hands behind his back and switched the cap. He held out his empty fist for me to see if it had the bottle cap. He did this several times then showed me the cap with a big grin.

He also totally dressed himself this morning instead of standing there limp while I dressed him. A big improvement as we see him adjusting to us more each day. Off to a breakfast of pasta.

Heavenly Lake








Heavenly Lake is a two hour drive outside of Urumqi and is said to be one of the most beautiful lakes in China. After seeing it today, I would have to say that this statement may very well be true. It was gorgeous!

The lake is surrounded by mountains which are dotted with pagodas and sheep (and satellite dishes). The drive from Urumqi was through a countryside that reminded me a lot of the American South-West, with camels added. As we began to climb the mountains, the road ran along side a beautiful fast flowing stream. The stream was doted with Urts, the round homes of the native Uygur (pronounced "wigger") people, the largest of the 42 minority groups in Xinjiang.

One of the touristy things to do was to get your picture taken with a traditional Uygur outfit one. Kayla, of course, was eager to have this done, although she is not very happy with the resulting pictures. They also had a stage where they were doing traditional Uygur folk dancing.

After enjoying the lake, we went to a small restaurant and had wonderful flat bread, mutton on a stick and Kzakistan tea. The tea had a generous amount of milk with a pinch of salt and subtle spices. It was very good. By the open fire where the meat was being cooked, the carcass of the sheep was hanging, waiting for more meat to be cut.

The mountain weather was a welcome relief from the heat and humidity of Beijing. Overall the weather in Urumqi is drier and slightly cooler, but in the mountains it was very pleasant. The breeze was cool and the mountain air was clean.

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